Vietnam divorce procedure

Vietnam divorce procedure

Vietnam divorce procedure vs Vietnam War

Whenever I am tasked with the Vietnam divorce procedure, the Vietnam War immediately comes to mind.  Yes, you read that correctly, the Vietnam war – I admit it.

Over the past 15-years, I have witnessed and experienced a plethora of divorce cases in Vietnam, and all share those common feelings of sadness, broken heartedness, and devastation that the Vietnam War brought to Vietnamese citizens, as well as the many the myriad of foreign soldiers that served as allied or opposing forces.

The only difference, I believe, would be the size and scale of the battle.

When the goals of a marriage cease to come to fruition, divorce may be the only option – easier said than done with respect to Vietnam’s traditions, customs and culture.

Vietnam divorce procedures are relatively complicated and probably takes much more time, consideration, attention, energy, and effort, between the two parties to end a marriage relationship than what either party might imagine.

 

Likewise, the Vietnam War took place over a 21-year period of time to come to a devastating end in 1975.

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The only victim in this battle is

The children

of course

Ending a marriage relationship itself not only means ending the relationship between a husband and wife, it may also involve children and property. In most cases, a divorce gradually becomes a battle over a few issues of:

01

The right of custody

Who will raise the child/children?

02

Financial obligations

Who’s will pay child support?

03

How and Where?

How and where will the non-custodial parent visit their children – will it be a convenient place & time?

04

What circumstances

Under what circumstances should the right of custody change from one to another? (change in custody rights).

How will divorce likely affect the development of children, and the life of the former spouse? Neither thele.blog nor the parties of a divorce has the answer.

 

In fact, the parties of a divorce are so submerged in themselves that consideration for children’s emotional needs is often neglected.

 

While the petitioner of a divorce may still love and care about the respondent of a divorce, the fact is they have been hurt in some way, shape, or form that they avoid thinking about the future life of their ex-wife or ex-husband.

It even digs into more detailed issues of whether a spouse would be able/allowed to accompany the child/children to visit his/her home country? What if the other spouse refuses to sign necessary documents?

 

 

A reasonable person would say that the above issues are not a problem, but they in fact, are. It is a big problem when either spouse can’t be trusted, and attempts to manipulate the child/children into taking sides.

 

 

The only victim in this battle is, of course, is the children.

That’s no different to Vietnam War, I reckon. Having believed in different perspectives, the North thought that capitalization invaded the South, and unification became a MUST, while the South was concerned that socialism was a threat to the development of society.

 

As such everything had to be done to prevent the North from forcefully acquisitioning the South. The conflict was believed to have killed more than 2-million Vietnamese people. It was a massively expensive lesson for all to learn.

Vietnam divorce procedure

One bit of advice that needs to be included in an article directed at foreigners considering marriage and starting a family in Vietnam

Get legally married

prior to having children with the Vietnamese spouse. If divorce occurs, the likelihood that a foreign father will get custody is zilch if they are not legally married to their child's mother.

Once the child is born,

spend a lot of time with that child and bond with that child so that if and when a divorce occurs, you have the love of the child on your side.

Further

when your spouse is sending threatening, irrational, sarcastic messages to you, be sure to create a back up of Zalo and Viber and SMS messages to present as evidence.

With respect to foreign passports,

be sure to obtain those as soon after birth as possible - hopefully before the mother is waist deep in postpartum depression.

That’s no different to Vietnam War, I reckon. Having believed in different perspectives, the North thought that capitalization invaded the South, and unification became a MUST, while the South was concerned that socialism was a threat to the development of society.

 

As such everything had to be done to prevent the North from forcefully acquisitioning the South. The conflict was believed to have killed more than 2-million Vietnamese people. It was a massively expensive lesson for all to learn.

Vietnam divorce procedure

Property

The war between the two spouses, of course, may involve property, and under normal circumstances, the creation and development of any properties involved becomes joint, but once the marriage is dissolved, separation of assets is not an easy task, even when both parties are amicable with each other.

 

It is not uncommon to see a situation in which the spouses argue with each other to gain as much as possible. One or both even uses manipulation techniques to change the ownership of certain properties, such as stock, banking, savings, etc., before the war officially gets started.

Vietnam divorce procedure

No Winners, Only Losers

what a vietnam divorce procedure looks likes
what a vietnam divorce procedure looks likes

4 steps

What a Vietnam Divorce Procedure Looks Like?

Vietnam divorce procedures, at first glance, could be described as a 4-step process that to include: